I know it is deep and confusing! What I intend to say here may go above your heads maybe. There is already so much confusion going around the concept of Feminism.
Girls pretending to be feminists and carrying the same attitude of being superior is nothing but chauvinism. There are girls who shout about equal rights in open but get hushed by their boyfriends or husbands in private and go gooey about how romantic they are, are also shattering monuments of so-called feminism.
Then there is another breed of people (I’m not mentioning the gender because it’s common to both)- those who overdo being feminists to an extent that it starts sounding sexism.
Yes…Feminism does become Sexism and people consider it as much as they care for consent!
I’ve been noticing it in a while. There are certain people and I mean this well. There are people who obviously are not oppressors (I’m not here to point fingers!) are trying so hard to include women in everything that it almost starts sounding as if a special favor is being done. For instance imagine a scenario I’m at my college for some committee setup for an upcoming college festival. Now my college has a rule to include boys and girls in all kind of event organisers. Fair! But then to proclaim yourself “feminist” you try to focus more on girls, bringing them to the forefront, making them heads of almost all committees on pretext of having a “womanly touch” is nothing but sheer sexism at its best.
Recently, a trend was started in India after several horrific episodes of female molestation and rape – #NotAllMen . I genuinely appreciate the thought behind it but seriously ? Was this clarification needed ? Are we not sane enough to know not everyone roaming around, not every testosterone secreting individual is a sexual predator ?
Why this justification in bold hashtags ?
Imagine in corporate board meetings at your office you boss in an extra sweet manner asking for your opinion going out of his way just to ensure some sentiments are not hurt.
Imagine in a college project group when you’re the only girl and included only because it’s on Women Empowerment.
Imagine the amount of frustration that comes when a man tries his best to help in order to be a feminist and goes out of his way getting it all wrong and reeks of sexism.
See, I know women need some recuperation after being oppressed for centuries. But trust me we need equality and not special treatment. Any self-respecting feminist woman will never demand special favors or concessions. She knows her worth and performs to the best of her abilities. Appreciate her for her qualities not because of her gender!
On personal front too, husbands, parents and boyfriends in an attempt to be feminists too cross the line and end up making sexist remarks. It is so subtle that even women fail to notice at times.
This is nothing but sexism gift wrapped in shiny packaging called “Feminism”.
I have seen women taking advantage of this whiff of feminism going on today. Some of them rebuke men sitting in a public transport claiming to vacate their seats for them just because they are women. Now here I have a problem. If I’m old and wobbly, pregnant and lactating or visibly ill and a man ignores me on my face and doesn’t vacate a seat- that calls to chastise him. Not other way round.
Vice versa, men who forcefully vacate their seats and keep offering it like creeps are not feminists but sexists. If I live in an extremely densely populated area with severe traffic problem and there exists a ” Ladies Parking” board I’ll be extremely furious by this feminism-ish sexism. Imagine the amount of hateful stares I’ll get from my gender counterparts. What extra accomplishments have I achieved to win a free parking slot when rest of them are honking and sweating away to death?
And trust me sexism dipped in feminism exists everywhere . My colleagues being way to sensitive around me on my periods is sexism. Just ignore and let me exist like any other living being who is not at her best today. Being gooey with knowingly giving me less work on “those” days is Sexism.
I know this entire rant may sound confusing and gibberish. But sexism is so deep-rooted in all of us, it is so rampant and everyone is either a sufferer or a sexist.
I’d like to close by mentioning the dictionary definition of feminism
“the belief that women should be allowed the same rights, power, and opportunities as men and be treated in the same way, or the set of activities intended to achieve this state”.
Being “treated” the same way. Nothing is mentioned about special treatments or cheesy efforts laced with sexism to remind us that we’re women and need your help.
P.S the idea to this article is inspired from some great stand-up comedians in Indian industry. Cheers to Womanhood ✌✌✌